Our expert says:
As I often say, I believe it is very important for children that both parents agree on a set of significant rules and consequences for breaking them - inconsistency and thus chaotic discipline, is distressing for them and makes it hard for them to form a stable sense of right and wrong.
And for either partner to use the children as a weapon against the other is, in my view, a form of child abuse.
Sounds like he may have really low self-esteem, and to be trying to buy their affection, mistakenly assuming that the could not like and respect him if he held to reasonable shared rules.
Is couples counselling an option ?
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