Our expert says:
Naturally, a situation which is very upsetting for you. But when you think this through, and get bwyond your immediate and emotional responses of disappointment, anger, etc. don't your "good christian principles" lead you to recognize the over-riding need to support and care for the child, who is surely, in every way, wholly innocent ? If this becomes your baseline principle, then its not so much that "we have to support her" out of a sense of general obligation, but out of love, for this child, and for your daughter, your own child ? Doesn't your religion speak strongly of love and caring, and of forgiveness ? And about not being narrowly judgemental ?
Sometikes even the Sun goes behind a bank of clouds, without altering its basic nature. And even really good people sometimes make mistakes. Given the situation that arose ( and looking beyond the fact that it could have been avoided ) isn't she perhaps handling this now in a sensible and caring fashion ?
being a genuinely good person isn't about never ever making mistakes, but about learning from them, not repeating them, and dealing responsibly with their results.
If there are others in your community and church who are less capable of love and christian charity, isn't it they who are deplorable ?
Rerad, thoutfully, the long set of kindly and caring messages our readers have left here.
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