Our expert says:
Apparently your initial misgivings were correct. Sounds like you have ben far more than generous in trying to make the marriage work, and as though your husband has been uninterested in anything other than himself.
Without time travel, none of us can go back and take what might well have been a better path. But continuing to struggle on in misery, hoping with no real sound reason, for things to improve, isn't wise either.
Other people think he's a nice man because he bothers to seem like a nice man to them. With you, he dosn't feel he needs to bother to pretend.
Part of your suffering is because he gives you nothing to please you, part may be because you have persisted for too long to stick to unrealistic expectations - its not that marriage is never happy, but that THIS one will not be happy.
See a counsellor FOR YOU, to help you stop being consumed by the regrets about what didn't happen, and to set yourself free to make sure the rest of your life is happier, as you deserve
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