Our expert says:
This problem sounds like what we refer to as 'delayed ejaculation'. It may be that you struggle to ejaculate all the time, or maybe it is only difficult when you are with a partner. Whatever the case the problem is often psychological in nature - the problem may relate to difficulty 'letting go', difficulty trusting, a dislike of the 'mess', fear of infection/pregnancy, fear of commitment. These issues need to be addressed in order for you to relax enough to 'give in' to the sensations and enjoy your sexual experience. I would urge you to get professional help. It is of course preferable if both partners attend but you can still get help on your own. Contact the SASHA (South African Sexual Health Association) helpline Tel -0860 100 262 for referral.
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