Our expert says:
Sounds like a common and frustrating pattern within family businesses - they tend to aim at meeting the dreams of one person, too often at the expense of others. Can you picture him managing to recruit ANYONE else to take this job, at that salary and benefits, and that sort of job description ? The number of talented masochists on the market is strictly limited.
Clearly, more discussions with your husband are needed. He can't really get away with just saying you can't "drop" him now - in many ways, he dropped you long ago. And to be playing trivial games while you do the work, is unacceptable.
You are not being selfish. HE is being selfish.
Put the problem to him clearly, and without accepting any excuses ( the situation presumably suits him just fine, so he has no motivation to change it ) - ask him to propose ways in which your needs and wishes can be respected and met, to encourage you to continue working with him, rather than seeking work which suits you better, while he would then need to search for someone else mug enough to accept the pittance he seems to think should satisfy you.
Thanks for the good wishes. Not the greatest of breaks, but then I'm really unskilled at not working !
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