Our expert says:
I'm confused - you have a third guy because you were trying to 'relieve stress of your new (2nd) guy'...? I don't quite understand why you needed to do this but it does sound like you are not interested in being with him - the 3rd one. Just because he wants to be with you doesn't mean that you have to, so if you are clear he is not for you, then you need to make your position clear with him. As regards the 2nd guy, whilst I'm hearing that you are in love with him, it's not clear whether he is in love with you since he lied and was involved with someone else... You may wish to clarify your position with the 2nd one because it may be that he is not interested in a relationship with you; this would be very difficult for you to deal with, but best you know this before you make a decision to leave the relationship with guy no 1.
It appears that you struggle with setting clear boundaries for yourself and get into situations that become messy and cause chaotic - try to find someway to learn to protect yourself better in the future - look for books on setting boundaries and/or if you have resources, i would encourage you to see a therapist.
Claire - SASHA
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