Our expert says:
Children's memory for events when they are very young, is either rare or non-existent ( up to around 5 ) and unreliable till around 5 or 6. But then they do indeed remember some of what happened to them, just as the rest of us do.
The situation you describe was sad and difficult, and surwely less than you would want it to have been - but it was the best you could manage to provide for your child, and a lot better than the circumstances in which some children sadly have to grow up.
It is not your fault that she remembers some bad times - that was not your intention, you did not know it was goin g on, and you apparently had no good alternative at the time.
If she doesn't want to mentionn her granny, don't push her to do so. But don't make decisions on a Forever basis - maybe eventually she might want to visit - leave the door open for whatever she might want. If she is still troubled about what happened, encourage her to talk with you about it, and simply listen, and perhaps say you're sad she had a tough time then, when you weren'ty able to provide better for her - but don't make too much of a drama of it, or she may be upset because you're so upset.
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