Our expert says:
Have you noticed how many people this week, have been complaining of having a really bad temper ? Is it the change in the weather or what ?
It seems you need, as one would do in counselling or therapy, to examine your alternatives in choosing a response when someone or something annoys you, and to evaluate the alternatives in terms of whether they'd be useful for you.
In many situations, irritating people should be simply ignored - and avoid letting yourself feel that they've somehow WON if you ignore them - they're often unaware of what they're doing. Speaking your mind isn't always useful, either - unless it can be spoken in a way that will encourage the other person to change for the better, rather than to get angry back at you, or dig in their heels and become even more of a nuisance, its not necessarily useful.
And "holding it in" isn't the only other altyernative, either. You can dissipate it in exercise, distracting yourself, or relaxing in a hot bath ( and beating up the sponge ). Or go to gym, and find a punching ball.
I'm not sure why people would think you a bitch just by looking at you - are you sure ? Or is this one of those assumptions you make, which may make you more angry, and unnecessarily so ?
Counseling can help you learn to be assertive, which is no taking crap, but without needing to be aggressive.
There's nothing stupid about recognizing such a problem, and no srink worth their salt would do anything but welcome you and try to help.
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