Our expert says:
Firstly it is clear from your post that the option of opening the boundaries of your relationship to include swinging is only being considered by you to attempt to please your partner and from an anxiety of losing him and wanting to keep him and the relationship.
I will be direct here and say that what you are considering is potentially disastrous for you and ultimately the relationship.
In a healthy relationship where both partners experience the relationship as satisfying and affirming of each other should never involve one partner feeling pressured to engage in any sexual activities for which they do not feel a shared desire to explore and feel it could enhance and expand the relationship in ways that will grow them as individuals and the relationship.
The level of vulnerability, the level of distrust and the degree to which you are considering to compromise yourself for him and the relationship is of great concern. These are issues that cannot be addressed appropriately in this type of forum.
I would strongly suggest you consider some individual counselling to understand why are you willing too make such sacrifices of yourself for the sake of a partner and a relationship and possibly also some couple counselling to talk the relationship through.
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