Our expert says:
You ARE stereotyping. MEN don't like going to strip clubs --- SOME men like it very much, some men don't mind it now and then, and some find it unpleasant and distasteful. Sounds like you may have some issues with self-esteem and self-confidence, which you could usefully work on with a personal copunsellor. This is not to say that it's unreasonable for you to be upset about some aspects of this situation, suich as his going behind your back after promising you he would not do so. But counselling could so much help you to handle these situations better.
As for the 3-somes in the past, they don't strongly indicate a likelihood that he'll repeat that in the future, but I suppose it does show an interest for sexual activities outside of the usual.
I understand that this is very hurtful for you. One element thaty may be partly comforting is for you to know that most men not only have no intention of upsetting their spouse by watching porn or strippers, but they don't see it or experience it as in any way a criticism of their spouse. For most of them, your understandable mupset feels like your getting upset on finding him reading al illustrated cookbook or watching the Food channel on TV, and assuming this is a serious criticism of your cooking. They separate the fantasy from the realisty better than women often do. That;s not good or bad, but different.
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