Our expert says:
The child is 3 --- at that age, even kids in very happy marriages may not fel strongly attached to their dads, and aren't usually used to speaking to Dad on the phone, so she's probably just being normal. As her dad he is entitled to spend a reasonable amount of time with her, and largely to decide how and where to spend that time --- so long as all decisions are made in the best interests of the child. He needs to recognize, too, that the flight to Joburg alone would be potentially disturbing to a child, and to then spend NO time with you for a couple of days, could upset her. He feels you are only thinking of yourself-- and jhe seems to be thinking only of himself and his family. That's natural enough, but who's standing up for the child ?
Anyhow, whatever happens, it is very highly likely that she will cope just fine --- kids are generally much more resilient than we think. And even if at some time for some reason she becomes upset, she is not likely to be lastingly disturbed or bothered by it.
Presumably at the Divorce hearing, decisions will be mae aboit yopur having custody of her, and what access he will have and what maintenanc ehe will pay. Generally best to have these set in court, avoiding more private squabbles later
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