Our expert says:
Caring for someone you love when they come to need more intensive caring, can be a burden in many ways, emotionally and financially, even though you may not begrudge it. When there are other family members who ought to share these burdens, it's especially galling to have them all assume that you will do everything needed. Maybe you need a family conference, to discuss what's needed and how they will all share the burdens involved.
And she obviously has to recognize that driving you into a depression, let alone into hospital is of no possible benefit to your father or indeed to herself.
One understands her potential anxiety that your dad needs help, but why does she see her role as limited to shouting at you ? So, back to your eventual qustion --- how does one ensure that she understands this ? well, given that there's none so blind as them who Will Not See, if she won't listen calmly while you calmly discuss this ( maybe easier if there is no immediate emergency at hand ) maybe you could write her a letter calmly outlining the problem and the dimensions of a necessary solution ( including her active assistance ).
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