Our expert says:
Such a tragedy related to birth is always difficult - commiserations to you. OF course your SIL COULD have announced her pregnancy later, but surely they did not realise that this would be so hurtful to you, and would they ( indeed, would you ) have been sure that 4 more weeks would have made much difference to you ?
It's a shame she did not call you to sympathize, but recognize also that there are other possibilities - hearing about your tragedy and then discovering that she herself was pregnant could have been very worrying for her, and may have aroused fears for the safety of her own pregnancy. This could be a sensitive issue for her, as well as for you.
And remember, as Purple says, in her wise and experienced response, many people feel for you when you are experiencing a tragedy, but say nothing because they really truly don't know what to say. Not realizing that often very simple responses are very comforting, and that nothing complex is required, they often err on the side of silence.
And, having waited, they feel guilty and find it even harder to think of what to say.
Consider seeking a grief counsellor for assistance, and maybe there is a branch of the Compassionate Friends you can reach ( an organization of mutual support for people who have lost a child, at any age ).
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