Our expert says:
Its hard to respond usefully without knowing the circumstances, such as the age of the child. 18 months or 18 years ? It makes a difference.
Is the child's mother useless or feckless ? Or is he merely spending social time with the son ?
Apart from Maria, the other respondents are makin assumptions about the situation for which we have no basis yet. Ava might be right or wholly wrong about you, the child and his ex.
I agree, though, that it may be worth exploring whether he can't include you in some of his time with the son, and whether he can't set aside some time each week specifically for you and him.
Lego makes the important point that a father's duties include showing his son how a responsible man behaves towards his wife and his current family. Couples counselling does seem indicated
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