Our expert says:
Firstly, why do you assume you need to "tell people" anything ? He's still exactly the same great son you have always had, and who you have brought up to be a nice and good person. His sexual orientation apparently happens to be gay, which is one of the usual variations, and occurs in some of us - not his fault, not your fault, not anyone's fault, any more than it's anyone's fault that you are not gay.
Your husband may not be being very supportive towards you right now, but has a healthier attitude to the situation. You wouldn't freak out if your son had grown up to have red hair - it's just a part of who he is. It really sounds as though you have some significant problems about this area of usual human sexuality, and you'd really benefit fro seeing a personal counsellor to better understand your very fierce and unhelpful feelings, and to work through your reactions, to find that this is no catastrophe - and that he needs and deserves your love as much and probably more than ever.
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