Our expert says:
I didn't think at first that this sounds so much like social phobia ( though I could fully see why you'd think that ), more like a depressed giving up, or a lazy can't be bothered attitude. Yes, it's understandable that he may feel embarrassed about what some other people might think of him ---but he should react to that not by acting in ways that will reduce that they think of him, but by working towards becoming proud of himself again. But then your later passages about becoming physically ill when facing even a pleasant social gathering, do indeed sound more like social phobia.
Consider exploring with the Anxiety-Depression support group whether he might be helped by some of their group meetings. And can he go to a clinic for asessment, diagnosis and treatment ? Whether this is primarily a depression of a social anxiety disorder, he could be greatly helped by the right treatment.
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