Our expert says:
Its not that you hate being single ( unmarried ) but that you seem to fear being alone, rather than enjoying aloneness as part of the pattern of life. You do indeed seem to be describing Social Anxiety disorder, which usually responds really well to proper treatment. Usually CBT has excellent results, so maybe the psychologists you and Motlalentwa saw just weren't skilled enough to do it well enough, and another could have better results.
As for meds, of course while a psychiatrist ( though few of them have the skills to provide CBT )can prescribe meds, a psychologist cant.
A GP is usually more likely to suggest the least helpful form of drug treatment, the Valium family of sedative tranquillizers. Though these can indeed relax you and help you feel better ( rather like alcohol does ) they have similar problems to alcohol, in that they can cause dependence with prolonged use. SOme of the drugs also used to treat depression are more effective in helping reduce anxiety and social anxiety. A psychiatrist could help select the one most likely to suit you. Ideally, I'd suggest resuming CBT with a more skilled therapist, and adding an antidepressant recommended by a psychiatrist.
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