Posted by: s | 2009-07-01

so negative

This year has not been going swimmingly so far: Í  had to end a friendship which was really difficult to do and then had this person badmouth me on facebook for the world to see, two of my family members died, I got quite a bad back injury in April which is not good as I' m a dancer, I' ve had the owner of another dance school sabotaging me at every opportunity, A boss who is just the most awful person: he constantly patronises me, speaks condescendingly, speaks badly of me or aggresively towards me in front of others and in general is just a bully, I' ve had someone use me as a scapegoat for their own incompetance, have had to deal with the most aweful, arrogant, rude personalities and you know what...I' m tired. I quite literally feel exhausted and so negative about everything at one point I thought I might be on the verge of a nervous breakdown. I' ve started to notice that even my resting face, the one you have when there' s no particular thought in your mind, is a frown. Now I am one of those people who believes that what you think so will you manifest, but I just can' t seem to muster the will power to start thinking positively because I just feel so beat down, ripped apart, chewed up and spat out and I know it' s not doing me any good. But how do I pick myself up and get myself out of this funk?

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Facebook should have better mechanisms in place to stop people using it in spite to bad-mouth others, and once someone rich sues them for this, they will. That said, you have had a run of bad luck and encounters with unpleasant and ugly people. A counsellor of the CBT sort could help you more efficiently to deal with this load, to avoid allowing these people to have such a negative effect on you, and to recover your self-esteem.
As Leez says, focus on the positive aspects of your life, and learn that the unpleasant words and actions of unpleasant people reveal the truth about themselves, not about you

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Posted by: Leez | 2009-07-01

Your circumstances, however bad, is certainly not unique. Why not try to focus only on the positive aspects of your life, e.g. hubby &  kids (if applicable). If not, then parents, siblings or anyone in your family with whom you have a good, healthy relationship/special bond. It' s working for me so I' m just trying to pass on some good advice in the hope that you will benefit as well.

Good luck. Time really heals all wounds.

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