Our expert says:
I agree with Maria as to your options. The exact gender of all the participants isn't relevant, but maybe your message left it ambiguous enough for readers to wonder. But its a shame that Leila has issues about this that speak far more about her problems than yours.
Snooping isn't a dreadful sin, but maybe bad manners. Cheating and keeping such a secret is worse behaviour. "Let it go" is only an option if you truly are able to do that, and few of us would be.
Vigilance is an option, but tends to cause tensions in any relationship. Discussing your concerns, voicing them calmly and in such a way as to focus on the significance of the message rather than enabling him to turn it all into a problem about snopping, would give the best chance to clear the air. Maybe the other guy was being flirtatious beyond reasonable, and perhaps not in response to encouragement from your friend
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