Our expert says:
Good responses from other readers. Try to let go and recognize that the irritation need not be automatic and unavoidable. You know there will always be selfish idiots who won't play by the rules, and some were never taught any coherent or social rules by their similarly lacking parents. Does it need to matter so much that they "steal" some of your time ? Rather that than do as you now do, and allow them to steal your peace and serenity.
It's not a question of not noticing that they are selfish and inconsiderate, but of choosing what way of responding to that, is most useful for you. YOur fuming for an hour or two, growing ulcers and biting your nails won't transform them into model citizens.
Sounds like you previously chatted to the wrong sort of psychologist, as some indeed are too airy fairy to be useful.
When you mention being so obsessive about your living space, it sounds as though there may be an element of OCD as well, and this can be well helped by CBT, and the CBT therapist could recommend whether medication in addition might be useful
Remember the wise old prayer : "Lord, give me the strength to change what I need to and can change ; the strength to live with what i can't change, and the wisdom to be able to tell the difference"
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