Our expert says:
So she's lazy and selfish. Why do your parents not comment on this and remin her of her normal social duties ? And why should you ever buy food for her ? Let her buy her own, or go hungry.
How cheeky for your younger sister to rudely tell you that you have a big mouth, when you remind her of her laziness.
Maybe if your parents are so foolish as to allow her to behave like this, and to expect you to be her servant, its not wise for you to spend holidays with them - tell them you love them and would like to do so, but only when they have spoken to the younger sister and have made sure she will be respectful and do her full share of chores , food-buying, and so on. You do not need to remain a servant of such a rude and selfish girl.
About the brother, I'm not sure I understand what you're saying. Is this YOUR house you both share, or his ? Who owns it or pays for it ? IF its your place, you're the boss, and should lay down the law about what you expect of him, what he should pay and how he should share the chores. If you have chosen to tell him to leave - good ! Thats not bad at all, but sensible. People will get away with using you so badly only if you allow them to do so.
As you are the first born, they owe you respect. COngratulations on standing up for yourself, and don't allow inappropriate guilt to influence you, and dont let them resume their bad behaviours. In your hom, you decide what you expect, and anyone who wants to live there must keep to your rules or leave. And your parents cant expect you to come home to do all the work and be abused by a horrible little sister.
Maybe now, finding his own place, and seeing the expenses and the amount of work involved, your brother might begin to understand and appreciate you. And maybe without you there to do all the work, your parents will have to either do it themselves, or persuade your lazy sister to do it, and she too may recognize how much you were doing, without thanks.
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