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Sorry for the delay in responding, but my instructions were ignored. This forum was supposed to be CLOSED to all messages throughout Thursday 21st and right through Monday 25th and only to re-open on Tuesday 26th. As my instructions were ignored I am horrified to discover a very large number of questions that should not have been possible to post, which have of course been unanswered while I was away. This makes me very angry and disappointed. I will try to respond as best I can, though very long message cannot possibly achieve full attention.
I get the impression that "apologising" to her at this stage would be actually to help you feel better, as our affair with her husband was cheating on her, and it could have been hypocritical of you to remain friendly to her without revealing your part in his afairs right then.
Telling her about it now -how would that help her ? 10 years or more later ? YOu say you feel she deserves better now - did she not deserve better back then ? Maybe you should get a counsellor for yourself, to work out your own issues of conscience and other concerns, and in that process decide how best you could be helpful to her.
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