Our expert says:
Sounds as thouigh your son lacks self-confidence, and has been unfortunate enough to marry an assertive and lazy woman, who he is afraid to challenge. And if she lies about the origins and duration of her pregnancy, and parties irresponsibly, perhaps leading to nthe death of the baby, she's a most unpleasant and selfish young woman. And then she's apparently so unmoved by the loss of her baby, that she can't wait to go partying again ? What sort of mother is that ? You're wise not to lend your car to someone so irresponsible, and presumably drinking so much --- she'd be a danger to the car, herself, and other people. What an unpleasant person !
The issue, though, is whether you can or should intervene, and whether it would be helpful to try to do so. I'd expect that your son is aware of much of what is wrong, but lacks the self-confidence to do anything about it.
Maybe it would be helpful to suggest calmly to him that he see a counsellor to improve his self-confidence and self-esteem, so as to have the confidence to defend himself and make whatever decisions are best for him and the child.
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