Our expert says:
Can't you have a calm chat with him about the plans for the holiday, mentioning that you have an old friend in one of the countries due to be visited, who you would like to meet up with - explore how he would feel about that, and if he perhaps has anyone he would like to visit. This needn't make him doubt your love. YOu don't really need to go into the gory details of the earlier relationship - maybe mention that at one time you felt close to this guy, but a close relationship was obviously not practical due to the long-distance, and now he's married, you'd like him to meet your husband who you love so much, and you'd be curious to see his wife and child. Do suggest that he join you in the meeting. And do ay that you won't go ahead if this would make him feel uncomfortable.
And yes, if you do indeed still have strong feelings of love and regret for this guy, then it'd be better not to meet
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