Our expert says:
Your choice of spouse can be determined by a number of factors, all of which are determined by your value system. In my line of work I do find that sexual difficulties can have significant negative spin offs for the relationship, so it could be problematic. However, if you value other things more highly, then that might not impact on YOUR decision.
I wonder why he resumes to the quickies, and also it seems that if you have only had an orgasm once in 6 months, despite him listening to your concerns, then perhaps you need to see a sexologist for an assessment to figure out exactly what is going on. There are a number of possiblities:
1. IF you have been orgasmic through penetrative intercourse before, then you need to think about what else is different for you (other than the experience being 'quick').
2. If you have never been orgasmic in this way, then perhaps you need to explore your own response a little more.
3. If his quickies are based on ejaculating too quickly, it may be that he needs to learn ejaculatory control (there are treatment options for this - check out previous questions on this site - I answered a question on this a few days ago).
4. If he can control his ejaculation, but chooses not to because he's tired, or doesn't think he can please you, then this needs to be better understood.
It sounds like it is a signifcant concern to you, so maybe you need to make it clear that you have concerns and want to get it sorted - if he doesn't listen, then perhaps stopping being sexual might prick his ears a little...?
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