Our expert says:
There are two aspects needing addressing here: emotions as a new mother, and how emotions relate to sexual desire.
Sometimes women become more sensitive emotionally after becoming mothers (I now cry at movies when before I used to laugh at my mother doing this!), but in addition to this there may be other factors which make you more vulnerable. For example, you have more to loose now. It may be that there are some areas of your life that have had to change being a new mother (e.g. tiredness, irritability, depression, frustration), and if your husband hasn't adjusted too, you might have built up a store of emotions, meaning that any smallish thing can 'tip you over' so to speak. Women also seem to have longer emotional memories than men, meaning that they seem to struggle to let go of the feelings - if you are feeling more sensitive now that you are mother, it may be that you feel the negative feelings for longer. I try to get women to 'push back' or let go of negative emotions when they know the issue has been resolved. This is not easy but it can be done - sometimes it takes just taking the first step and hugging him until you feel better. However, if the problem has not been resolved it may be more difficult!
It is very common that women's emotions interfere with their sexual interest - so if you're holding onto negative emotions, you may struggle to feel sexual interest.
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