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Posted by: Anon female | 2011/05/24

Sexual Abuse

Ever been sexually abused as a child and never told a soul?

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I think you'll find that many people who have ben abused as a child, sexually, physically, or psychologically, have not told others. Sometimes because their abuser wickedly persuaded them it was all their fault and that they should be ashamed of what was done to them ; sometimes because they have been threatened with awful consequences if they speak about it ; sometimes because they fear they won't be believed ; sometimes because when they try to tell someone they actually are not believed.
It can be a great relief to reeal such facts to a properly trained psychologist in therapy, and recognize that none of this was your own fault. And to get help to move beyond it
Contrary to the myth spread by some popular but ill-informed books, almsot everyone who has been abused, like others who have been traumatized, DO remember what happend ( indeed they may suffer from such memories ) and they do not "repress" and forget it. They may successfully try to avoid remembering it, because its unpleasant to do so, but that's different.

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Our users say:
Posted by: DarkAngel | 2011/05/27

Hell i know the consiquences of telling and it can do as much damage than not telling, the only thing is they wont keep adding to the list of people they have hurt.

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Posted by: Romany | 2011/05/25

Regardless how long ago this happened, you need to speak out before you will ever find peace.
It is not only about you, it is also about all the other people her may have already abused, are abusing and will still abuse in the future.
It makes no difference if it is a family member, friend or whatever. Sexual abussers need to be prosecuted and you should do this.

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Posted by: Robbie | 2011/05/25

i think that some things are not gonna make any difference if you going to tell anyone now, the abuse was done and it''s probably many years later, if the abuser goes to jail will it make any difference in your life, unfortunately you must still continue with your life and you still need to deal with your feelings, whether everyone knows about your ordeal or not.

please i am not insensitive here but it''s just reality and somewhere along the road you will have to confront yourself by looking either back or try to live your life. Good luck on your decision.

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Posted by: cybershrink | 2011/05/24

I think you'll find that many people who have ben abused as a child, sexually, physically, or psychologically, have not told others. Sometimes because their abuser wickedly persuaded them it was all their fault and that they should be ashamed of what was done to them ; sometimes because they have been threatened with awful consequences if they speak about it ; sometimes because they fear they won't be believed ; sometimes because when they try to tell someone they actually are not believed.
It can be a great relief to reeal such facts to a properly trained psychologist in therapy, and recognize that none of this was your own fault. And to get help to move beyond it
Contrary to the myth spread by some popular but ill-informed books, almsot everyone who has been abused, like others who have been traumatized, DO remember what happend ( indeed they may suffer from such memories ) and they do not "repress" and forget it. They may successfully try to avoid remembering it, because its unpleasant to do so, but that's different.

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