Our expert says:
You are a true survivor and have done incredibly well to overcome your fear of sex. I wonder if you have come to enjoy sex, or simply not fear it. There are a number of things that could account for the discomfort - the pill you are on, or insufficient arousal. The pain you experienced on the vigorous thrust clearly upset you, but you don't need to be afraid of sex in general now...I would encourage you to speak to your husband about the importance of him being gentler in future, but you also need to work with him on the discomfort you have been experiencing. If arousal is the issue, you need to take your time to make sure that you are ready before beginning penetration in particular. The addition of a good lubricant could also assist. Returning to your previous therapist is not a bad idea, just don't stick to it ONLY being about the past rape - whilst of course this may play an important role, there could also be other more immediate factors like insuffiecient arousal and consequent tensing of the pelvic floor.
Claire - SASHA
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