Expert's Reply

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Sexologist

I certainly hope so... there is no reason why not and it's not uncommon for women to be disinterested for a little while post partum. The reasons for this include: 'falling in love' with the baby (an instinctive maternal reaction), breastfeeding and the production of milk is under the influence of a hormone called prolactin which is known to have the effect of lowering sexual interest, baby blues (and, if worse, post natal depression) will lower interest in many things, tiredness due to interrupted sleep etc, a feeling of being always 'on demand', or a feeling of her life having changed and partner's life continuing as before (if this is true) may result in resentment...

Try to be understanding and supportive as to what is going on for her and perhaps gently discuss how much you miss physical closeness. listen carefully to her responses and take it from there. if this persists for longer than you feel is appropriate (with no other factors present that would explain this change) , then perhaps you need to discuss this concern more seriously. What ever you do - this is not the time to contemplate an affair (in life or over the internet, emotional or physical); try to remember that her body has undergone huge change and still is...remember before you do eventually resume sexual intimacy to address contraception!

Claire - SASHA

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