Our expert says:
So sorry to hear about this combinaton of problems, Liza. The room-mate, if I remember properly, was a problem whether there or not. It creates the immediate hassle o finding a new flat-mate but as I gather she wasn't pulling her weight or paying her way anyway, any new sharer is likely to be an improvement.
And as she sounded as though she needed help, at least now she is safely in others' hands, and not a further drain on your own skills.
Facing the loss of a parent is never easy, of course, as you well know. And whatever you know in a theoretical sense is severely challenged by the reality.
What you describe of his progress sounds rather promising, though of course one hesitates to be too hopeful in such a situation. I had two uncles who died of a similar bleed, and if I remember accurately, the highest risk period is one your dad has passed, as they died very soon after the ops, and never got as far as he has. Even realistic progress is unlikely to be faster than you describe.
As intense grief at this stage may be more than the situation deserves, and is basically unhelpful right now in most ways, maybe some dissociation isn't a bad choice - dissociation / Denial gets an unfair bad rap, as I think of it as a valuable psychological ointment or balm that can be very helpful is proportionate.
Maybe it'd be wise to welcome the clients warmly, but briefly describe the situation you're in, worrying about your dad, saying that you will give all you can to their needs, and are grateful for the chance to keep usefully busy at a time like this.
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