Posted by: sc | 2009-08-26

self confidence lacking

Hi. I need urgent help. I have a date on Saturday (been out of the dating game for quite some time) &  I honestly dont know what this guy sees in me. I am really nervous of him (&  I think he is of me) and I know I am going to act differently on Satuday than I have over the past few months. We have gotten to know eachother slowly and there has been no intensity. But now he asked me out and I will be stuck with him for a few hours, where before I could chat to him for 2 minutes &  walk away, so I was myself. I have zero self confidence and scared that he is going to wake up and see the person I really am. How do I just act like this is just a movie, nothing more, nothing less. No expectations.... I really like him &  would like there to be more, but if I am nervous and self conscious, he will not want to see me again. Any suggestions would help. Thanks.

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Posted by: Jane | 2009-08-26

He asked you out, so he clearly likes you. If it is just a movie, you dont have to talk during that, so thats at least 2 hours where you can breathe and relax without talking.

Sounds like he is nervous too. Jist try your best to relax and act yourself. I' m sure it will go great!

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Posted by: RIck | 2009-08-26

Just be yourself, that way you are always being true to who you are.

Ive been in the game for many years, then out of it when I got married, now in it again, as im divorced. I have always just been me, yes, a bit nervous in the beginning when meeting new people, but who isnt?

Dont be over eager, dont pressurise or be pressured, just let the evening flow naturally and be yourself.


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