Our expert says:
Shouting may be almost instinctive, but as you've found, is no use at all, and the same goes for bottom smacking. And he's a bit young for reasoning with. Depending on how verbal he is, you can explain you will be with him when he stops the noise, but can't stay while he is screaming.
Try also checking this same question on the Parenting forum, as other experienced parents there, as here, will be able to comment from their own experience.
Screaming should not be rewarded ( though this can also be tempting ). Many will say you should ignore him, and leave him to scream himself out, withdrawing attention from him, providing attention whenever he quiets down, and withdrawing again if he re-starts the screaming.
If you've checked that he isn't hungry, cold, too hot, thirsty, or sitting on an open safety pin, don't feel guilty for not finding an immediately helpful way to respond when he screams.
What do others of our experienced mom's find most helpful as a way to respond in this situation ?
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