Our expert says:
Of course one feels sad in such circumstances - its actually important to allow oneself, within reason, to feel sad when its an appropriate response to situations. Not excessively sad, not for inappropriately long, and not allowing oneself to wallow in it and move towards miserable and unhelpful conclusions or responses to it.
Valentine's Day is indeed nothing whatever, other than a scam dreamed up by marketers to sell low-quality stuff to mugs, and it inflicts much unfair misery on people who are led to feel disappointed when its never as marvellous as the adverts promise.
And please, folks, NO surprise or secret delights - anything genuione is entirely as delightful when openly planned. If the Pistorius tragedy happened the way some reports suggest, someone planning a silly "surprise" ended up being horribly surprised themselves.
NOBODY normal enjoys surprises.
If you love each other and its financial reasons that have postponed marriage, then work with good counselling to get out of debt and to be able to afford a pleasant marriage. That's not something to allow yourself to get miserable about. Save all the expenditure you can.
Amd simply explain the money difficulties to family and friends. If they;d like to contribute generously to pay for your wedding, that'd be nice. If not, then they should stop selfishly nagging you about it
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