Our expert says:
If you try to start a relationship with, or simply pay attention to, someone who is just newly divorced / separated, that's how it goes. Good people don't just immediately switch off their relationship with someone else, and it takes time and hard work to work through the separating.
Now, you've just met him again, after quite a while. It's really too soon for either of you to be thinking of sex, as you still need to get to know each other and see if there is anything else potentially in a relationship. Remember wooing ?
You could simply and calmly say to him that at this stage you're not yet looking for a sexual or intimate relationship, but that you'd feel fine about getting to know him socially, and seeing how the pair of you get along. That's not "discussing sex" but just clarifying how you currently feel and what you want. He's free to accept or politely decline your boundaries.
Its interesting and probably relevant if you are feeling you're being pushed, if this feeling is based on how he has been behaving towarsds you, rather than purely on your own gloomy expectations or interpretations
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