Our expert says:
Of course, as a psychiatrist I can't answer legal questions, and in such choices, different people would validly make different choices. I think it is fair when a man wants his wife to stay at home ( saving him lots of money by providing valuable child-care and home-care ) a system that ignores her major contribution to his fortunes, giving this a zero value, and enabling him to increase his personal fortunes without sharing this with her, is inherently unfair. I think economists talk about lost opportunity costs, or something like that, in analyzing such situations.
The fact that you will in due course inherit something from your family, and he won't, is surely irrelevant. The marital arrangement is about what each of you contribute to the marriage. And of course, when you are contributing towards his staff wages and lending a vehicle, it is also unfair to ignore this. And of merely repay such loans, without interest, is unfair.
He sounds like the sort of guy who would eventually pay his kids only a small amount o pocket money, and would consider it a loan they must eventually repay.
A man who considers loking after the home and kids to be a vacation, is a man not fir to be married. Couple counselling muight help, but he'd probably see no need for it. If this is how mercenary and selfish he is before the mariage, it isn't going to get better afterwards. It is very understandable and sensible of you tom hesitate before marrying such a man --- he sounds as though he wants to marry a free housekeeper, baby-sitter, child-rearer and a free loan facility, more than a wife.
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