Our expert says:
Apologies for the delay in response.
It is quite normal that men and women vocalise (make sounds) during sexual pleasure. The degree, however, may make all the difference. If you are 'screaming' it may be a surprise to your boyfriend and perhaps you might try to tone it down a little. If you mean moaning and noises that can be contained by the walls of your home...then perhaps he (1) needs to understand that this is a positive indication of the pleasure you are experiencing and (2) needs to explore ways to remain in touch with his own experience and not 'distracted' by your pleasure. He also appears to have clear ideas about how sex should and shouldn't be. It is good that you know what pleasures you, perhaps you could try to get him to touch you in that way and also to explain how there are some things that just enhance your sexual pleasure. Since the clitoris is external and therefore not always suffciently stimulated during penetration, it is appropriate for you to touch yourself. You clearly value this relationship as you have been with him for 11 months and have taken the effort to post on this forum; so take it easy with him and try to bring him round. If it would help, ask him to post a message on the forum so that he can get an opinions from the expert & the public...? Alternatively, you could try going to a sexologist for one session to clear up any misunderstandings.
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