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Posted by: Visitor | 2012/12/12

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Hello

there is this person i call a friend (male), we work for the same company but different unit, well known, well behave, respectful . I got to know this guy better when i needed help and we''ve been friends for about 5 years now. The thing is this guy spoils me to the extend that i feel bad at times, although its not as often its anything from buying me stuff for the house (e.g food and grocery stuff), gifts (really nice expensive gifts), taking me out &  replacing my car tyres. everytime he travels somewhere locally or internationally he brings me a gift. Now the interesting part is there is absolutely nothing happening between us except friendship, not a kiss, not a wink, just a hug when we separate.

In the 5 years that i have known him, whether talking on the phone or via text or meetings, has he never said anything suggesting he wants more, and we talk about anything, from relationships, life, politics, general etc or behaved in any manner that suggest there is anything else other than friendship. The only thing he told me is that i am special and he enjoys my company, though we don''t meet as often as he travels a lot. I have dated a number of men to really pick up if a man wants more or not, but with this guy i can''t see that.(not that i want a relationship with him)

I have never bought or gifted him anything, i want to but everytime i think about it questions come to mind.
1. will the friendship change if i get him something. i don''t want to give him anything that will suggest othrwise
2. the guy has got everything, what do i get him
3. is there more to him spoiling me like this, if so why is he not saying anything.
4. should i reject or continue to take the gifts he gives me.

If you can help, please do

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Posted by: Visitor | 2012/12/18

Gay, i see your brain has shrunk like your three letter name, if you will read and attempt to understand what i have written you will understand that i do not want the guy in anyway other that as a friend. and if i wanted him, it would not have taken me 5 years. Your reply starts and ends with a wrong assumption, but then again glad im not one of your friends.

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Posted by: Gay | 2012/12/14

Girl Girl the brother is gay. I treat my lady colleagues exactly like that. Funny how some of them send me their nude pics but I feel nothing I am rather interested in their brothers. Wake up and smell the coffee. Basadi ba tshwanang le lona ba sele le re etsisa dimistake the next thing the poor guy has married to you and living a miserable life. Leave her alone and send me his contacts. Silly woman!!

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Posted by: Visitor | 2012/12/13

Lol Maa, he is definitely not gay.

Funny enough he is my " dream guy"  type but i would rather that he doesn''t go or think that far. I have a high respect for him and would prefer things not to go further than this but i have to share my concern with him about the excessive gifting. I guess like you say most people dont give without expecting to get something, so when you get such, one always questions the motive, even if there isnt''
thank you.

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Posted by: Maa | 2012/12/12

I would say - just enjoy the gifts and everything he does for you. Consider yourself lucky indeed!! Most people would always expect something inreturn for doing some favours for others. On the other side I do sense that you wish so much that he can propose or ask for a relationship!?! Hopefully he is not a Gay../?

I''m a man, but definately I wont go that far -as much as he does, just to spoil you while knowing that I''m not atracting you to be my next victim ..LOL(kidding)

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