Our expert says:
I wonder how ( especially if you say you were using your head ) you chose to enter a relationship with a foul-mouthed woman who sounds most unattractive --- was it entirely in the hope of enjoying the sex ? Or do you at some level like someone being unpleasant to you ? Then finding her directly personalyl hurtful, its entirely normal that you stopped being aroused by her and stopped getting an erection. Unless one has a strong masochistic streak and actively sexually enjoys being misused, that would end anyone's capacity for being aroused by that person. Now in the newer relationship, you may be experiencing a degree of carry-over of negative expectations from the previous and nasty relationship.
CBT would help --- check if you can find, through library or book-shop ( especally online ) some relevant self-help CBT oriented books.
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