Expert's Reply
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Sexologist
Whilst it may be you ejaculating before your partner, and therefore seem like 'your fault', you need to know that most men take on average 2 minutes to come, most women take on average 13 minutes to orgasm. It is therefore necessary to take steps to delay your ejaculation if you wish to pleasure her first. So as you can see, 5 minutes is actually pretty good! The two of you will need to manage her arousal alongside yours - either you focus on arousing her before penetration, or allow yourself to ejaculate and continue to stimulate her after.
The reason why you may take a while after delaying your ejaculation may be because you have had to reduce arousal (however you do it) and it takes a little while to refocus and allow the arousal to build again.
Claire - SASHA
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