Our expert says:
Guys vary in how long it takes them to reach orgasm and ejaculation, and what we call Premature Ejaculation is not necessarily measured in minutes or seconds, but in whether this happens before they have satisfied their partner and themselves. Apparently the first guy you describe expected much more of himself and felt very bad about performing at a level less than he wished for ; and the second guy apparently is used to performing this briefly, and saw nothing unusual or embarrassing about it.
If the man recognizes this as a frequent problem, there are various methods of treatment that can greatly help. IF he is satisfied, he will not seek treatment and not change.
If you care about him, rather than only the sexual aspect of the relationship. you can discuss this tactfully and gently with him, and explore whether this is usual with him, and whether he might like to see someone who works in this field, to improve his duration and his ability to satisfy you, which is something he may want to achieve.
Remember, depending on age groups and cultural factors, some men have been conditioned to think only of their own satisfaction, don't really understand about a woman's satisfaction, and may not even notice that she didn't enjoy the experience or was disappointed.
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