Our expert says:
Frankly, I think it selfish and uncaring in the extreme for any husband to expect his wife, let alone a significantly pregnant wife, to cater for his single friends several times a week. And to expect you to do his chores and stand in queues, shows not merely selfish callousness but not caring to risk the safety of yourself and your pregnancy. Companies don't provide maternity leave to enable pregnant women to slave for a foolish husband.
Maybe youve been too diplomatic and you should indeed lay down some rules. Refuse to do ANY chores whatever for him, immediately, and make it clear what support and help you need. Does he have a mother or father he would listen to, and do they know how disgracefully he is behaving ? Don't be so scared of seeming to be nasty - it doesn't seem to bother him at all.
Immediately stop catering for his friends - any real man would not accept allowing a male friend to treat his pregnant wife in that way. If he invites them round, they are HIS guests, not yours. Take to your bed or at least your room, reminding him that for the baby's sake as well as your own, you must rest and cannot take on this unnecessary extra work.
Don't you love the image of Purple's husband sitting in the birthing room, playing on the games console ? And yes, disuss this with your gynae, too, and if he offers to call your husband and teach him some basic biology and etiquette, invite him to go right ahead.
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