Posted by: B | 2009-08-14


my 12 year old son recently tried to " hang"  himself with his scarf on the school bus. he said the reason was that the other kids were teasing him. he went into therapy. now he has done the same on the playground at school also stating kids laughing at him was the reason again. he gets good grades, enjoys home life, is open and spontaneous at home, plays sport, etc...he is going back to therapy again. he is an only child and is spoilt and pampered and used to getting his own way.prone to occasional violent temper tantrums, his teachers say he is a perfectionist in class. i have addressed this with him, he says the kids make him very mad,we have an open relationship and have chat time every evening. what am i missing or what have i done to cause this? everyone is worried, naturally, yet some say this could be attention seeking? any advice or suggestions till i see the therapist?

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It doesn't sound as though the therapy was much use, though something of that sort is clearly needed here. Surly a diferent therapist would be a good idea --- and, depending on the qualifications of the therapist, maybe first a careful assessment by a good local child psychiatrist or child psychologist, to be sure there is a clear diagnosis and clear goals for therapy. Issues that need to be dealt with include being a spoiled and pampered child, maybe having unrealistic expectations from others. his tantrums, and just to find better ways of handling situations in which he feels picked on. He can learn not to let other children's opinions be so very important to him. It is indeed likely that part of what's happening is a matter of attention-seeking, but unless one examines WHY he feels a need to demand atention in this lurid way, simply sayin so isn't in itself very helpful

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Posted by: anon | 2009-08-15

He may need some medication and a clear diagnosis. Suicide threats should never be taken lightly. Do as CS recommends, have him assessed by a Psychiatrist and perhaps a different therapist.

He sounds like he is going through a crisis - hormones are also changing and could cause violent outbursts - shame it is a diffifult time for your son. Depression could definitely be linked with OCD behaviour and all avenues explored.

Hang in there, parenting is very difficult as it is without having all these extra worries.

Good Luck!

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Posted by: Red | 2009-08-14

It sounds like he has a bit of OCD as well???

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