Our expert says:
I'm wondering what exactly has been going on here. On the one hand, it makes sense that the child's birth mother ought to take the responsibility to care for her, if she is able to do so - but what matters most of all is the child - how would she understand suddenly being abandoned by the person caring for her, and pushed back to someone she may hardly know ? ( you don't mention the age of the child ).
Why was the birth mother not able to or bothering to, look after her own child for 9 years ?
But if you are undergoing severe financial hardship, it is understandable that you would want to try to care at least for your own children, though that also sounds difficult right now.
Are there not welfare organizations you could approach for some help in this desperate situation ? And though it may be difficult with your husband out of work, presumably the situation wasn't quite this desperate until recently - what changed ? Is it that your own earnings cannot support even subsistance care for your family ? Child welfare might be able to arrange foster homes for the children till you get back on your feet again.
What can other readers suggest to help here ?
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