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Ageing and Sexuality expert
I always feel sad hearing that older people stop being sexual- however I know from research this is more likely to happen when there was never really great sex even in the "good old days". Your sexual situation sounds pretty miserable.
There is no reason for your sexuality to come to a halt just because your wife is choosing to neglect hers. And it does require effort to maintain sexuality as one ages - so its a choice people make: either to get into sexual maintenance or choose avoidance and thus shut down shop.
It sounds as if porn is new to you. I always think it is wonderful and important to continue sexual exploration at any age. I recommend you read my book "Ageing and Sexuality " (Oshun 2009) Perhaps with this information you will throw away your guilt and allow yourself sexual pleasure.
I am not encouraging you to neglect your wife- on the contrary, try seduce her differently. Change the way you approach sex, introduce new ways of being sexual- again my book will provide you with lots of information.
And anyway I always prefer porn over infidelity - so find a conversation you can have with your wife that will be interesting for both of you. That will lead to some understanding and possibly soem kind of sexual/intimate experience.
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