Our expert says:
Unless he marries you or adopts the child formally and legally, he might WANT the child to use his surname , but cannot insist on it. And whatever name the child uses, he, with you, created the cild and is responsible for maintenance costs for the child, and will continue to have this responsbility until the child is adult. And if he tries to stop paying his dues, a maintenance court can require him to do so.
The "suicide" threats sound highly manipulative.
Pay attention to yourself and your child. He should see a counsellor to sort out his confused and imature reactions to a situation he was very much involved in creating
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