Our expert says:
Its partly a quesion of how you chosoe to focus your attention. Gosh, if I chose to focus on all the people who have hurt me, or tried to harm me, I'd be too busy to even start breakfast ! This is where CBT can be so useful, to help you quit these negative habits of mind. Its no so much unfinished business that needs to be finished, but wheels spinning in the sand or mud, and one needs to be jumped ahead onyl firm ground again, so as to drive away from them.
That nasty couple, for instance --- OK< so they interfered in your marriage 4 years ago --- then they stopped whatever they were doing -- YOU have enabled them to continue interfering in your life, by continuing to obsess abou them. If they are trying to return, dicuss this with your husband, both of you tell them you want nothing moore to do with them, and move on.
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