Our expert says:
OK, the first one - avoid if posible. If not, try to get in the first word, "Oh I'm so sorry to meet you, I'm in such an awful mess ! Just LOOK at my awful figure, hair, outfit, etc etc." Now she either has nothing left to say, or if she wants to be disagreeable, needs to contradict you and say you're not looking quite that bad !
The second one, maybe try slipping a "no comment" into the conversation wth her, now and then ; see if she notices !
I suppose I'm suggesting there's sometimes a middle way between unpleasant and unhelpful confrontation, and false cheery encouragement of them. Hints that imply criticism, but if they try to take offense, leave you with room to pretend to be oh so innocent
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