Our expert says:
Some people disregard their own importance, and feel it is their duty to make things great for everyone else - and probably become somewhat over-analytical through scanning situations to find out how best to do that.
Yes, you may be over-protective. And there is accumulating evidence that while kids should be protected from real dangers, they probably should not be over-zealously protected from the inconveniences of life. Kids who grow up in too sterile an environment may actually not develop fully competent immune systems, as they were not sufficiently challenged by a range of tedious but not dangerous germs.
And I believe it is similar psychologically. An over-protected kid doesn't develop their own psychological defences and capabilities, and only get the more easily hurt later in life when they can't be so thoroughly protected.
So it's hot. For many generations we in SA just sat in the shade. For a long time, even in the best hotels and offices, there was no aitcon. So long as she avoids sunstroke, being hot is fine - it's part of life. Should she be shocked to discover how hot it gets, at some later time in her life ?
PK, you seem to be descibing a rather careless and uncaring mother who doesn't pay enough attention to her child's feelings - you may calmly try to discuss that with the mom, but can't entirely protect the child from it. Better to be available so the kid can talk with you over such things if and when they trouble her.
Separation anxiety doesn't normally last very long. By 5 years of age, she should have recognized the pattern that mom goes away at the weenends, BUT that she also comes back again. And she has you as a source of comfort and stability, which is a lot more than some kids get.
She may look more obviously for affection from mom because she gets so little, so she works harder to try to attract it.
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