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Posted by: Issy | 2011/10/23

Orgasm difficulty

when we first started having sex it was so easy to orgasm, sometimes even befor him but now its so difficutly and takes forever even though im really turned on.
could it be the lubes we use or is there something wrong??

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There could be a number of issues including the side effect of medication if you have begun taking some, or maybe distraction during sex, reduction in the additional excitement due to the newness of the relationship. If the lube you use is more than just a lubricant - eg/ heats or cools, then it is possible that it also has a mild numbing effect... If you have not changed / started medication, you are really turned on (not sure why you need lube then - possibly try without or change type/quantity of lube), and stimulation is adequate, then there is not likely to be something physically wrong. I would then wonder about psychological aspects related to you or the relationship that may have changed in this time (e.g. any trust/jealousy issues that may have developed may mean that you struggle to let go now, stress at work may distract your attention, etc).

Claire - SASHA

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Posted by: XXX | 2011/10/24

Most women cannot orgasm by simple penetration.Ensure that you have lots of foreplay and then when he is thrusting you can play with your clit at the same time.

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Posted by: Sexologist | 2011/10/24

There could be a number of issues including the side effect of medication if you have begun taking some, or maybe distraction during sex, reduction in the additional excitement due to the newness of the relationship. If the lube you use is more than just a lubricant - eg/ heats or cools, then it is possible that it also has a mild numbing effect... If you have not changed / started medication, you are really turned on (not sure why you need lube then - possibly try without or change type/quantity of lube), and stimulation is adequate, then there is not likely to be something physically wrong. I would then wonder about psychological aspects related to you or the relationship that may have changed in this time (e.g. any trust/jealousy issues that may have developed may mean that you struggle to let go now, stress at work may distract your attention, etc).

Claire - SASHA

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