Our expert says:
Ageing and Sexuality expert
Society constructs the rules , the norms whereby we live. At this present time our society deems it "normal" for a man to be older than a woman in a relationship. It used to be based on a practical purpose - men earn more money, should take care of women as women were never expected to work or be able to take care of themselves. So being with an older man meant that a woman was "cared" for.
We know the truth is very different. Today women can take care of themselves- in fact it is men who harass, rape and violate us so simply as he is a man, an older man does not guarantee us anything, Women must be able to take care of themselves and choose partners today based on very different reasons.
If your man is a good man, a man who respects, considers, cares and is kind to you. If he fulfils needs unique to you then be brave enough in your commitment to him.
By 31 years old you should no longer be so dependent on outsiders for approval. Its time to wing it on your own. If you feel fully certain that this man is good for and to you, then you will "sell" him as such to your family ; If you present yourself as shy, ambivalent and nervous about this relationship so your family will respond to this and discourage you. It really is on your hands. There are no guarantees , irrespective of age, but when a good thing thing comes along, nurture it and deal with the difficulties that arise.
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